At little bit of advice

I've thought a lot about life and marriage and married life the last couple of days. I have a couple of friends and family that are either engaged or starting up serious relationships. Some I want to yell, "What are you thinking!?!" Others I think, "Well, you'll have to work that one out." And others I just sit back and smile. Because you don't know. Before you are married, you have no idea what married life is like. There are things that I wish people would have told me, or possible they did tell me, and now I wish I would have really listened or understood. So here they are my advice to those looking for love-

Love advice from Dr. Kira ;)

1.Something my Mom always told me, but I really learned after I was married. When you are dating, that is the best it gets. If you don't like things about the person when you are dating them, they are not magically going to disappear after you are married, most often they will just be accentuated. Dating life and honey moon life are when both people are wearing their best faces.

2.Marriage is work. Really, really-it is REALLY work. Your relationship doesn't just grow and blossom with age. There are times I would rather punch Tony in the face then hug him and make him dinner. (I love Tony, believe me, but love doesn't mean that at times I don't want to punch him...in the face :D) There are times that I think, 'well if he would ever do something romantic or nice for me, then maybe I would do something for him...' It doesn't work like that. Just because you want him to do something and you use all your ESP power to make him do it, it doesn't work. The best thing I have found-you do something first. Even if I tell him "Honey I want/need you to do something romantic/nice for me." It doesn't work. It usually just makes him madder or more stubborn. President Hinkley's advice come to the rescue again. -Forget yourself.- Do something first, even if you'd rather punch your partner, humble yourself and do something for them first.

3. Those hormones you have raging through you...they aren't always going to be there. I know it sounds crazy, but they aren't. Marriage is work. And I'm not saying that your love life will be horrible after the honeymoon, it can get better and even more awesome, but sometimes it just takes a little bit of work...from both people.

4.Look at the person you like/are going to marry/are dating-if you marry them in the LDS temple, you are marring them for time and all eternity. You will have a family, and that will be fun, but one day that family grows up and starts their own lives, and you are left with two. Two people. You and your spouse. I know that our family's are together forever, I will forever be connected to my parents, and my kids will forever be connected to me, but Tony is my main family. Liam and Emma and Fox one day will grow up and find beautiful spouses of their own and cleave to them, and I can't go with them. Tony is who I will always be with. Luckily I want to be with him. So look at the person you are thinking of one day marrying. They are your nucleus. Your family (mother and father/children) will always be around you forever, but you and your spouse are your center...forever...that means even after you are dead. You had better really like them.