I've been think a lot lately about some of the good advice I've gotten that has stuck with me. All have had a different impact on me, my family, and life, and have been proven true through mistakes that I have made. So, like a bad bridal shower game, here is some of my good advice.
1. Never go to bed angry at one another-(heard first from my mom and then at every bridal shower ever known in the history of time)
This one is mostly for women. i.e. One night Tony and I had an argument, okay, lets admit it, a fight. Both of us thought we were right and were unwilling to budge on our thoughts and feelings. We both got in bed, where I fumed for a few minutes and then furiously got up a went down to do the unfinished dirty dishes. I angrily did the dishes and slammed cupboard expecting Tony to come down and apologize or at least hash it out with me. He never did.
A while later I headed back up stairs, not wanting to be the one to sleep on the couch, and slept perched uncomfortably on the edge of the bed as to not touch my culprit husband. After a horrible nights sleep I gave Tony the silent/two word treatment and sent him off to work. I was furious. That night it did get hashed out, and we agreed to disagree but understand one another. Later, once again happy with one another, I asked with puppy love eyes if he too had had a horrible night as I had. He replied, "I was angry at first, but then I heard you banging the cupboards downstairs and thought 'that is so cute,' got over it and fell asleep."
Yep. It's advice for women so that we wont stay awake all night fuming while they quickly get over it and sleep peacefully. You know how boys can fight and punch each other and then be over it, but when girls fight they tear each other down for days? Same concept.
2. Tell your children how you want them to be, and they'll become it- (Grammy Pugh)
For example-We all talk in front of our children about our children. We talk to others, ourselves or our children about them and their actions. Grammy taught me to tell the kids what you want them to be. If you want them to be snots then tell them that they are snots. If you want them to be shy then tell them that they are shy. If you want them to be kind, then tell them they are kind. It works. I try to tell my kids and others that my kids are awesome, kind and loving, and for the most part they are. It's also worked the other way. I've told others that Emma is mischievous, and she is, and since I've said it a couple of times its escalated. I've really got to do some damage control on that one.
3. It wont be easier in the morning-(found online)
Dishes. Really, need I say more?
Another one that goes along with this is -Save money by always doing your dishes after you eat. That way, when it's time to make a meal again you don't feel overwhelmed by the towering dirty dish pile and decide to go out to eat instead-(Jen Fugal)
4. Always assume good intention-
This one and the next one I got while snooping around Tony's best friends parents house. These people are my heroes. If I could be a mix between them and my parents (with a few other friends and family members qualities thrown in) I think I would be my perfect person. That's how I justify snooping around their house (Okay, I don't really snoop I just keep my eyes open). They have some of their goals and goal qualities posted up in their house and this was one of them. I love it. I just hope they really mean it, because after I snooped and saw this, I borrowed some clothes to go dirt bike riding in and got them all dirty. Wanting to be grateful for letting me borrow the clothes I took them home and washed them...and then forgot to give them back...and then left Utah. Luckily, I did manage to give them to my MIL who's friends with the Tuttle's and lives close by. I can only hope they really got to them.
5. Become debt and financial free so that you can freely give to others-
Clearly this is still a goal of mine. But one day, sooner than later I will do it. In the mean time I'll still try to give what I can.
Words to live by. Any advice you've gotten that's stuck, that I can add to my "stuck-good-advice" pile?
